I don't believe in cheating by
"mistake." I believe premeditation of the mind and/or by the actions/situation.
What I mean by that is obviously premeditation of the mind is simply the
literal definition of premeditation.
pre·med·i·tate
past tense: premeditated; past participle:premeditated
1.
think out or plan (an
action, especially a crime) beforehand.
Premeditation of the actions is
the same, but replace “think out” with act out and situation of things “playing
out.” Meaning you could already be ACTING OUT {what may lead to your
infidelity} and/or things could be PLAYING OUT in favor of leading up to the
infidelity. This could happen consciously
or unconsciously [YOU are responsible for your actions regardless.]
I don't believe in cheating by
"mistake." Why? We live in the real world, not porn. You don’t just
meet someone and after 0.1 seconds you’re already fucking them. I don’t believe
cheating happens “in the moment.” Oh, when you fuck someone there’s always a
buildup…already existing attraction, lingering touches, lusty stares,
inappropriate conversations, and spending “quality time” with this person in
leisure, all the while sexual tension is building. It’s almost always someone
you may know; co-workers, friends [rather
a budding friendship or one already established], estranged exes. Oh,
there’s a buildup…a buildup that you LET happen. You either chose to ignore the
tension or naïve to the fact. Either way YOU are responsible for you actions.
Citing it as a “mistake” is a cop-out. You did WRONG, own it. Somewhere down the line you made the WRONG
turn to get you where you were….alone…with this person…naked…hard…panting. Oh, this takes TIME to happen, this takes
build up…
Premeditation of your actions
This is one of main reasons
people cheat, because it feels GOOD to give in…to lust! The stress of trying to
resist temptation and finally just letting go and letting temptation have you
just this “once,” right? Was your cheating REAALLY a mistake or were you just
succumbing to your desires. An attraction that became deeper…an attraction you
were indeed conscious of. An attraction that got deeper the more this person
came around. An attraction that grew
into lust and yet you allowed yourself to end up alone with this VERY person
long enough to fuck them. Oh how I don’t believe cheating happens “in the
moment.” You got ample amount of time avoid this “moment,” to assure that
“moment” won’t happen, you should have seen this “moment” coming, but you didn’t
resist because you were simply TIRED of resisting...
Premeditation of the situation, oh how the
stars seemed to align at the right time just so you can do the do with this
person that you don’t belong to.
You premeditated this with your careless
and reckless actions, you premeditated this by going deeper into this sexual
tension, instead of being conscious of the heat rising and turning down the
temperature, you naively shrugged it off and LET it continue to build and then
BOOM, you have sex with this person. But NO, you DON’T just fuck someone out of
nowhere unless you’re DEFINITELY doing it on purpose. Otherwise, you may THINK
it was a mistake because you “didn't do it on purpose, but it almost always
was TENSION that lead to you fucking that person [and I only say “almost
always” to be open to possibilities, but I really want to say ALWAYS.]
Opening Pandora’s Box and knowing
you that if you keep digging it won’t be good news, knowing you should close
it, but won’t, is NOT a mistake.
