Mistake or Misstep

I don't believe in cheating by "mistake." I believe premeditation of the mind and/or by the actions/situation. What I mean by that is obviously premeditation of the mind is simply the literal definition of premeditation. 

pre·med·i·tate

past tense: premeditated; past participle:premeditated

1.    think out or plan (an action, especially a crime) beforehand.

Premeditation of the actions is the same, but replace “think out” with act out and situation of things “playing out.” Meaning you could already be ACTING OUT {what may lead to your infidelity} and/or things could be PLAYING OUT in favor of leading up to the infidelity. This could happen consciously or unconsciously [YOU are responsible for your actions regardless.]

I don't believe in cheating by "mistake." Why? We live in the real world, not porn. You don’t just meet someone and after 0.1 seconds you’re already fucking them. I don’t believe cheating happens “in the moment.” Oh, when you fuck someone there’s always a buildup…already existing attraction, lingering touches, lusty stares, inappropriate conversations, and spending “quality time” with this person in leisure, all the while sexual tension is building. It’s almost always someone you may know; co-workers, friends [rather a budding friendship or one already established], estranged exes. Oh, there’s a buildup…a buildup that you LET happen. You either chose to ignore the tension or naïve to the fact. Either way YOU are responsible for you actions. Citing it as a “mistake” is a cop-out. You did WRONG, own it.  Somewhere down the line you made the WRONG turn to get you where you were….alone…with this person…naked…hard…panting.  Oh, this takes TIME to happen, this takes build up…

Premeditation of your actions

This is one of main reasons people cheat, because it feels GOOD to give in…to lust! The stress of trying to resist temptation and finally just letting go and letting temptation have you just this “once,” right? Was your cheating REAALLY a mistake or were you just succumbing to your desires. An attraction that became deeper…an attraction you were indeed conscious of. An attraction that got deeper the more this person came around.  An attraction that grew into lust and yet you allowed yourself to end up alone with this VERY person long enough to fuck them. Oh how I don’t believe cheating happens “in the moment.” You got ample amount of time avoid this “moment,” to assure that “moment” won’t happen, you should have seen this “moment” coming, but you didn’t resist because you were simply TIRED of resisting...

Premeditation of the situation, oh how the stars seemed to align at the right time just so you can do the do with this person that you don’t belong to.

You premeditated this with your careless and reckless actions, you premeditated this by going deeper into this sexual tension, instead of being conscious of the heat rising and turning down the temperature, you naively shrugged it off and LET it continue to build and then BOOM, you have sex with this person. But NO, you DON’T just fuck someone out of nowhere unless you’re DEFINITELY doing it on purpose. Otherwise, you may THINK it was a mistake because you “didn't do it on purpose, but it almost always was TENSION that lead to you fucking that person [and I only say “almost always” to be open to possibilities, but I really want to say ALWAYS.]

Opening Pandora’s Box and knowing you that if you keep digging it won’t be good news, knowing you should close it, but won’t, is NOT a mistake.