Go Ahead, Ask ME!

Ask if I believe the American education system is fucked up. When you have to send $50+ [non-refundable] with an college application only to be told your not get good enough to attend, but your money was. Ask if I believe the American education system is fucked up. When these days students are not even getting ACTUAL books, but a stack of PAPER, having to then by a tablet for it...cost? About $200+. In debt for  the greater part of your life after going to college and your degree may or may NOT even be valuable.   

Go ahead, ask me! When students AND teachers cheat the scores on tests, it's because the SCORES are valued over actually LEARNING. Ask me! Every year more and more elementary KIDS are coming home carrying a backpack full of books and homework that weigh more than their body. Kids should NOT be stressing as much as a college student. Stricter curriculum, but yet LESS for students and teachers to work with because  as the budgets are lowering more schools are CLOSING. Where the money is going? WAR. Go ahead, ask me if I believe the American education system is fucked up. When America only cares about WHAT students are learning ONLY if its in the interest of competing in education with OTHER countries, go ahead...ask me. 

We Cannot Win

They will say, "I have no problem with gays, BUT keep it to yourself." And that is sign of ignorance stemming from homophobia so we...do...keep it to ourselves. 

Until...now, we're "cowards" and not being TRUE for keeping it to ourselves. 

So...we...come out. Now we're accused of forcing homosexuality on those oppose...the "gay agenda."

WE CANNOT WIN!

As I sit here, randomly thinking back to a Facebook post one of older cousins posted with about her son's [also my cousin, of course] concerns about a certain homosexual student at his school. This was sometime last year, so I do not remember it verbatim.

His concerns were this flamboyant peer that he believe to be "forcing" his homosexuality upon him by simply being open about HIMSELF. Wow, for someone reason being real with YOURSELF seems to concern others. 

I wanted to comment on that status SOOOO bad, but I have this thing were I feel that its rude to comment and debate on someone's Facebook status. If its from a Facebook page, then fine, but someone's personal status though....no I do not like doing that. 

But what I WANTED to say:

Tell your son [my cousin] that someone being open about their self is no reflection of YOU. Tell your son [my cousin] that unless this boy is hitting on him, he should not be concerned. He should be concerned about girls....FEMALES. He should not be concerned with ANY dude...period. Why he worried?

So...yeah...that would have been a little too STRONG! Lmao....and for this to be FAMILY too. Nah, I ain't that guy. 

Now, this older cousin has TWO sons, I have formally met one. I never was able to confirm WHICH brother I've formally met and IS the same one that had concerns about his homosexual peer from school.

 Funny thing, the one that I DID meet [at an Aunt's house] seem VERY excited to "rough-house" with me...you know, play wrestle. Now this may very well have been an innocent "boys-will-be-boys" and "just playing" type of thing, but he was very persistent in having body to body contact with me. That's something I look back on and always believed to be a little suspect...TO Me. Maybe I am thinking too much into it, but I've been around any cousin/boy/sibling that wanted to wrestle that bad. 

Now if this IS the same cousin of mine that I've play wrestled with...I think I know what his "problem"....don't make me SAY it, honey! Lmao. 

   

Are You Gay & Masculine Or Just Avoiding The Feminine Stereotype

To many gay dudes make being gay all that they are about. My sexuality doesn’t have to be everything that I’m about. I don’t think it’s self hate to not want to be thought of as a “typical” or stereotypical gay dude. Like ok you’re gay is that all?

That was a response from {one individual} on one of my post on Tumblr when discussing feminine gay men. Let more debate on this MASC vs FEM war began, smh. 

Sadly, this could very well the mentality of many masculine men in the gay community. Purely believing that feminine men center their life around homosexuality because they are they way they're is completely unfair. Its no more true than stating that just because a women is a women that her WHOLE life is centered around that. I am black, everything about me isn't about my race. I am a male everything about me isn't about my gender and so on.   

I expressed that I belief this homophobia [because that IS what it is] towards feminine men within the gay community is self-hate. 

This was my response:

Maybe their not thinking about being “typical” because too busy just being them. The assumption that because their flamboyant does not every imply their whole is based on that. That’s the same thing we also do as blacks, we police ourselves because we’re so fearful of being look at as the stereotype of blacks and then we put that onto other blacks, Its to the point were I have to have ask, as a masc GAY man, are you that because that’s natural to you…because that’s your personality…is it because you’re just being true to self…or is it ONLY because you masculinized [dont think thats a word, it is now lmao] yourself because you’re ashamed of being look at as “stereotypical.” And you want to avoid it so much that you're purposely making yourself exra "macho."

My philosophy is, stereotypes come from SOMEWHERE…it comes from a bit of truth, the problem is when its sold as the WHOLE truth, but nevertheless…people forget, there are feminine gay who not trying to be the stereotype, they are just  being true to SELF. There were feminine gay men before there was the stereotype. So its not like that’s what they are purposely tryning be.

See and that’s the great thing about being GAY. Is that there is no limit to masculinity. Because as a straight man, there are certain things  that man cannot do or it would be considered GAY….but if you’re already GAY…why put a LIMIT on yourself out of fear of being seen as a “typical” gay.

That’s why It say its self-hate…but deep down, theres something that still makes you feel ASHAMED that you policing yourself so that you won’t be “TOO GAY.” Like….WWWHY?!

Why DOES the gay community resent feminine men so harshly?

Homophobia More Accepted Than Racism

Did that catch your attention? Well as a young gay black man, I have to talk about this.

Racism is alive and “well,” but in some aspects…really think about how subtle it may be at times. Because many, try to hide it. Racism has happened, IS happening, WILL continue to happen, but many racist are not upfront with it.

As more people denounce racism, plenty of racist know that if [openly] racist, it could cause backlash and not just from blacks, but from their fellow Caucasians. Whilst homophobia is still greatly accepted. You say something homophobic and a great number of people will rally behind, but because society has changed, if said person was to say something racist many would fear publicly agreeing with those racist views. It is a new day and they actually fear the consequences of their racism.

People AREN'T as scared as letting their homophobia show as people will let their racism show.

You can see it happening in the media multiple times. How many times have you heard about somebody saying some racist shit and they ass got EXPOSED. There is NO need to expose those homophobes because they’re open about their distaste for LGBT.

Most people in this day and age are conscious that racism is fucked up. While more are openly able to agree in unison that gays are “abomination.”

Racist are more likely [not saying All] to be subtle, lowkey and closeted. People will PROUDLY say they are against gay marriage or any kind of gay rights and shit.

But this also brings up the point that just because they don’t EXPRESS it, don’t mean that they aren't against you.

You Got Good Sex

You have good sex when he does not let your dick throb without putting his mouth and/or tight ass around it.

If you’re hungry, he got that ass to eat. If you’re thirsty he got some cum to swallow.

Always ready to give, willing to receive.