Rape Culture in A Man's World

Had a debate with some [male] family members...that fact that it had to be a "debate" is warrant enough for me [and you] to be disgusted. I took to my personal FB account for some rape culture rants, here they are:

Why should there be any questions about HOW LONG it took...why years from the time of the rape? If you killed someone YEARS ago...do they NOT still come for your ass sooner or later? I'll wait. Yet with rape is when we question shit. ‪#‎Rapeculture‬.

Rape culture. When people's first response to rape is WHY the victim didn't speak up AND question rather it was consensual is when you created a society in which rape victims are SCARED to speak up. YOU created the culture of them not speaking up.That's what I'm saying.
Bill went from denying it to admitting drugs were involved...but they "wanted it"? Yeah, that's a rapist favorite line. Yet people still doubt the victims when Bill has shown he's a liar...yet still seems to have more credibility than the rape victims. That's ‪#‎rapeculture‬ for you. And that's WHY people don't speak up.

And no saying "men get raped too" is not a good thing to bring up when the discussion is a WOMEN getting rape. That's equivalent to debunking ‪#‎BlackLivesMatter‬ with ‪#‎AllLivesMatter‬ we know that ALL lives matter, but that's not the problem at hand. Will discuss that as it happens NOT when the matter is a WOMEN. Yes we know men get raped, but THAT also don't get taken seriously for the same reason a woman getting rape doesn't. Conditioned gender stereotypes...if you a women..."you wanted it." If you a man..."men don't get raped. HA!"  

Do people lie at times about rape? Yes. So do they about other serious matters...so I guess everything and every serious allegation should not be taken seriously cos some assholes cry wolf. No, you see it THROUGH and if that person IS lying then you throw the book at them, but with ‪#‎Rapeculture‬ the book is thrown at accusers BEFORE hand. Doubt from the get. ‪

#‎Rapeculture‬ is people being more passionate about reasonable doubt than the actual matter at hand...THE RAPE.

If you have daughter or a sister and she comes to YOU saying she was raped...WHERE will be your reasonable doubt then? Will you think "maybe she wanted it" then? ‪#‎rapeculture‬

Their whole agrument was centered around, "Why wait so long. He gave her drugs? She probably wanted the drugs. " I was fucking disgusted.  

And my brother? Has THREE daughters...he should educated himself on how sexism and gender stereotypes does affect rape culture. 

The Separation of Church & State: Gay Marriage

“No laws should force a church to marry a gay couple if its against their beliefs…”  

“What about the separation of church and state?!” 

That is and has always been complete and utter horseshit. 

 The separation of church and state went off the cliff the moment that, “In GOD We Trust” was put on every single dollar bill. The separation of church and state went out the door when, “…One nation under GOD…” blossoms in the Pledge of Allegiance. The separation of church and state left the party when an individual’s belief in God started to be used by presidential candidates to gain votes and it worked. The separation of church and state called in sick when it became reality that the accusation of NOT believing in God as a presidential candidate can actually harm your efforts. The separation of church and state got ran over by a fucking dump truck when it’s required that each President be sworn in by their hand on the bible. 

 It has NEVER been that separation. Or at least not as far as people would like it. Its tax exempt…that’s about the only luxury. Which I don’t think it should be with all these fake ass prosperity pastors making millions off their mega churches. 

Tax them some bitches! 

 But this country has ALWAYS and will continue to be influence by religion. I find it comical that people are only so passionate about this so-called separation on the subject of [gay] marriage, but the argument for it magically disperses when they are voting that women should NOT be having rights to their own body based on their own RELIGIOUS beliefs. 

Funny how that works, huh? 

Let me tell you…generally this is a country that LOVES DEM sum GOD! I am willing to bet that this country would vote a BLACK, FEMALE, LESBIAN who’s a believer of God as President before even THINKING of allowing a STRAIGHT, but ATHEIST WHITE MAN into their oval office. What separation?

Religious/Conservative/Southern Bigots Are Having A BAD Month

We are really in the future. A LONG time coming with Gay marriage [that's simply MARRIAGE now] and with the Confederate flag FINALLY being publicly condemned. 

Make no mistake, we still have a long way to go on the matter of racism and homophobia despite what has transpired lately. There are still varies of anti-gay laws in effect. This country still lacks protection from discrimination under law across all 50 states. And yes, of course, there is still racism. 

You can say the Confederate is apart of history...and it is, but so is the Nazi swastika...the difference is people have enough sense to be ASHAMED of it. The debate shows the true selfishness, inconsiderate, racist heart of America. That in 2015, people are JUST NOW catching on to the fact the Confederate flag has a negative history. SAD! Years behind. For those to still publicly and UN shamefully defend it without a care in the world. Because only on the matter of us BLACK FOLKS do people just simply not fucking care...but let the Confederate flag's history be about something BAD happening to the white folks. We would NOT be still having this debate about it. If the Confederate flag was African American's flag and symbolized an uprising/revolt of slaves, you think these Confederate defenders would still defend it? Do you think that they would still be SO proud of it's history? Further more, do you think it would be triumphantly blooming in the wind on STATE buildings?  I'll wait on that answer.

Lord, these Christians really think the RAPTURE is coming...I am still waiting for Jesus. Still waiting on that TX pastor that said he would light himself on FIRE if gay marriage passes. Still waiting on all the people that said that would move to CANADA because of the SCOTUS decision. Too ignorant to know the gays BEEN able to get married in Canada, honey. 

While they got their bibles out...HA! Is there even a point at entertaining you religious nutsos?! We've already won the battle. Let it go! You LOSE, LOVE WINS! 

Now...let's not rest until all the rest of these anti-gay foolish is dismantled! 

What do you do?

What do you do when you're into thing that your partner isn't into...sexually speaking? 

When you finally work up the nerve to tell him, to express the new depths of your sexual fantasies, only to be shot down and told...

I love to Swallow CUM. Do you too?

Cum is the tasty treat, the cream filling you have to suck vigorously to get to your prize. The erotic of having apart of another man deep inside you. Hot, warm and creamy. I love it. 

Go Ahead, Ask ME!

Ask if I believe the American education system is fucked up. When you have to send $50+ [non-refundable] with an college application only to be told your not get good enough to attend, but your money was. Ask if I believe the American education system is fucked up. When these days students are not even getting ACTUAL books, but a stack of PAPER, having to then by a tablet for it...cost? About $200+. In debt for  the greater part of your life after going to college and your degree may or may NOT even be valuable.   

Go ahead, ask me! When students AND teachers cheat the scores on tests, it's because the SCORES are valued over actually LEARNING. Ask me! Every year more and more elementary KIDS are coming home carrying a backpack full of books and homework that weigh more than their body. Kids should NOT be stressing as much as a college student. Stricter curriculum, but yet LESS for students and teachers to work with because  as the budgets are lowering more schools are CLOSING. Where the money is going? WAR. Go ahead, ask me if I believe the American education system is fucked up. When America only cares about WHAT students are learning ONLY if its in the interest of competing in education with OTHER countries, go ahead...ask me. 

We Cannot Win

They will say, "I have no problem with gays, BUT keep it to yourself." And that is sign of ignorance stemming from homophobia so we...do...keep it to ourselves. 

Until...now, we're "cowards" and not being TRUE for keeping it to ourselves. 

So...we...come out. Now we're accused of forcing homosexuality on those oppose...the "gay agenda."

WE CANNOT WIN!

As I sit here, randomly thinking back to a Facebook post one of older cousins posted with about her son's [also my cousin, of course] concerns about a certain homosexual student at his school. This was sometime last year, so I do not remember it verbatim.

His concerns were this flamboyant peer that he believe to be "forcing" his homosexuality upon him by simply being open about HIMSELF. Wow, for someone reason being real with YOURSELF seems to concern others. 

I wanted to comment on that status SOOOO bad, but I have this thing were I feel that its rude to comment and debate on someone's Facebook status. If its from a Facebook page, then fine, but someone's personal status though....no I do not like doing that. 

But what I WANTED to say:

Tell your son [my cousin] that someone being open about their self is no reflection of YOU. Tell your son [my cousin] that unless this boy is hitting on him, he should not be concerned. He should be concerned about girls....FEMALES. He should not be concerned with ANY dude...period. Why he worried?

So...yeah...that would have been a little too STRONG! Lmao....and for this to be FAMILY too. Nah, I ain't that guy. 

Now, this older cousin has TWO sons, I have formally met one. I never was able to confirm WHICH brother I've formally met and IS the same one that had concerns about his homosexual peer from school.

 Funny thing, the one that I DID meet [at an Aunt's house] seem VERY excited to "rough-house" with me...you know, play wrestle. Now this may very well have been an innocent "boys-will-be-boys" and "just playing" type of thing, but he was very persistent in having body to body contact with me. That's something I look back on and always believed to be a little suspect...TO Me. Maybe I am thinking too much into it, but I've been around any cousin/boy/sibling that wanted to wrestle that bad. 

Now if this IS the same cousin of mine that I've play wrestled with...I think I know what his "problem"....don't make me SAY it, honey! Lmao. 

   

Are You Gay & Masculine Or Just Avoiding The Feminine Stereotype

To many gay dudes make being gay all that they are about. My sexuality doesn’t have to be everything that I’m about. I don’t think it’s self hate to not want to be thought of as a “typical” or stereotypical gay dude. Like ok you’re gay is that all?

That was a response from {one individual} on one of my post on Tumblr when discussing feminine gay men. Let more debate on this MASC vs FEM war began, smh. 

Sadly, this could very well the mentality of many masculine men in the gay community. Purely believing that feminine men center their life around homosexuality because they are they way they're is completely unfair. Its no more true than stating that just because a women is a women that her WHOLE life is centered around that. I am black, everything about me isn't about my race. I am a male everything about me isn't about my gender and so on.   

I expressed that I belief this homophobia [because that IS what it is] towards feminine men within the gay community is self-hate. 

This was my response:

Maybe their not thinking about being “typical” because too busy just being them. The assumption that because their flamboyant does not every imply their whole is based on that. That’s the same thing we also do as blacks, we police ourselves because we’re so fearful of being look at as the stereotype of blacks and then we put that onto other blacks, Its to the point were I have to have ask, as a masc GAY man, are you that because that’s natural to you…because that’s your personality…is it because you’re just being true to self…or is it ONLY because you masculinized [dont think thats a word, it is now lmao] yourself because you’re ashamed of being look at as “stereotypical.” And you want to avoid it so much that you're purposely making yourself exra "macho."

My philosophy is, stereotypes come from SOMEWHERE…it comes from a bit of truth, the problem is when its sold as the WHOLE truth, but nevertheless…people forget, there are feminine gay who not trying to be the stereotype, they are just  being true to SELF. There were feminine gay men before there was the stereotype. So its not like that’s what they are purposely tryning be.

See and that’s the great thing about being GAY. Is that there is no limit to masculinity. Because as a straight man, there are certain things  that man cannot do or it would be considered GAY….but if you’re already GAY…why put a LIMIT on yourself out of fear of being seen as a “typical” gay.

That’s why It say its self-hate…but deep down, theres something that still makes you feel ASHAMED that you policing yourself so that you won’t be “TOO GAY.” Like….WWWHY?!

Why DOES the gay community resent feminine men so harshly?

Homophobia More Accepted Than Racism

Did that catch your attention? Well as a young gay black man, I have to talk about this.

Racism is alive and “well,” but in some aspects…really think about how subtle it may be at times. Because many, try to hide it. Racism has happened, IS happening, WILL continue to happen, but many racist are not upfront with it.

As more people denounce racism, plenty of racist know that if [openly] racist, it could cause backlash and not just from blacks, but from their fellow Caucasians. Whilst homophobia is still greatly accepted. You say something homophobic and a great number of people will rally behind, but because society has changed, if said person was to say something racist many would fear publicly agreeing with those racist views. It is a new day and they actually fear the consequences of their racism.

People AREN'T as scared as letting their homophobia show as people will let their racism show.

You can see it happening in the media multiple times. How many times have you heard about somebody saying some racist shit and they ass got EXPOSED. There is NO need to expose those homophobes because they’re open about their distaste for LGBT.

Most people in this day and age are conscious that racism is fucked up. While more are openly able to agree in unison that gays are “abomination.”

Racist are more likely [not saying All] to be subtle, lowkey and closeted. People will PROUDLY say they are against gay marriage or any kind of gay rights and shit.

But this also brings up the point that just because they don’t EXPRESS it, don’t mean that they aren't against you.

You Got Good Sex

You have good sex when he does not let your dick throb without putting his mouth and/or tight ass around it.

If you’re hungry, he got that ass to eat. If you’re thirsty he got some cum to swallow.

Always ready to give, willing to receive. 

I haven't got freaky with Blogger in a Long time...

So here's some personal quick videos, from me to you.

Are You Smarter Than A Dog?

The arrogance of  Humanity

 We have this thing where we THINK we’re the smartest species of all. I feel differently, other animals feel, think, speak to each other just like WE do. 

They teach one another just like we do. They strategist like we do, they have natural instinct to protect their young just like we do. We are intelligent, but we as homo sapiens have flaws just like any other species. They may not live as we do but ya’ll got to stop thinking animals are dumb. Is it fair to say such as thing. They be knowing shit. They are aware of the world.

They fact that most of us GASPS in amazement whenever and if ever we see an animal doing something particular that they’re not “suppose” to be capable of. When a dog’s friend is dead from getting ran over and the dog cries…yes animals mourn just like we do. They have EMOTIONS. 

The only reason we can say we’re the smartest is because there is no other species that speaks OUR language to dispute that.

Mistake or Misstep

I don't believe in cheating by "mistake." I believe premeditation of the mind and/or by the actions/situation. What I mean by that is obviously premeditation of the mind is simply the literal definition of premeditation. 

pre·med·i·tate

past tense: premeditated; past participle:premeditated

1.    think out or plan (an action, especially a crime) beforehand.

Premeditation of the actions is the same, but replace “think out” with act out and situation of things “playing out.” Meaning you could already be ACTING OUT {what may lead to your infidelity} and/or things could be PLAYING OUT in favor of leading up to the infidelity. This could happen consciously or unconsciously [YOU are responsible for your actions regardless.]

I don't believe in cheating by "mistake." Why? We live in the real world, not porn. You don’t just meet someone and after 0.1 seconds you’re already fucking them. I don’t believe cheating happens “in the moment.” Oh, when you fuck someone there’s always a buildup…already existing attraction, lingering touches, lusty stares, inappropriate conversations, and spending “quality time” with this person in leisure, all the while sexual tension is building. It’s almost always someone you may know; co-workers, friends [rather a budding friendship or one already established], estranged exes. Oh, there’s a buildup…a buildup that you LET happen. You either chose to ignore the tension or naïve to the fact. Either way YOU are responsible for you actions. Citing it as a “mistake” is a cop-out. You did WRONG, own it.  Somewhere down the line you made the WRONG turn to get you where you were….alone…with this person…naked…hard…panting.  Oh, this takes TIME to happen, this takes build up…

Premeditation of your actions

This is one of main reasons people cheat, because it feels GOOD to give in…to lust! The stress of trying to resist temptation and finally just letting go and letting temptation have you just this “once,” right? Was your cheating REAALLY a mistake or were you just succumbing to your desires. An attraction that became deeper…an attraction you were indeed conscious of. An attraction that got deeper the more this person came around.  An attraction that grew into lust and yet you allowed yourself to end up alone with this VERY person long enough to fuck them. Oh how I don’t believe cheating happens “in the moment.” You got ample amount of time avoid this “moment,” to assure that “moment” won’t happen, you should have seen this “moment” coming, but you didn’t resist because you were simply TIRED of resisting...

Premeditation of the situation, oh how the stars seemed to align at the right time just so you can do the do with this person that you don’t belong to.

You premeditated this with your careless and reckless actions, you premeditated this by going deeper into this sexual tension, instead of being conscious of the heat rising and turning down the temperature, you naively shrugged it off and LET it continue to build and then BOOM, you have sex with this person. But NO, you DON’T just fuck someone out of nowhere unless you’re DEFINITELY doing it on purpose. Otherwise, you may THINK it was a mistake because you “didn't do it on purpose, but it almost always was TENSION that lead to you fucking that person [and I only say “almost always” to be open to possibilities, but I really want to say ALWAYS.]

Opening Pandora’s Box and knowing you that if you keep digging it won’t be good news, knowing you should close it, but won’t, is NOT a mistake. 

A Race With No Finish Line

There is possibly no where in America you could be right now and not know about the circumstances in Fergurson, MO. 

Murder. Injustice. Ignorance. Corruption. 

No, this is not a movie. This is reality. This has been happening. This day and age as the internet intensifies a headline, there are many more stories similar to those that of Mike Brown, Trayvon Martin, Sean Bell, Eric Garner, Oscar Grant, [etc]  that have not hit mainstream media.  

Disturbing. 

As a black man, my days are possibly numbered. My death could easily be the next thesis on racial injustice. I just can't help but think what can we do to stop the fiasco and can it Be stopped. What exactly are we fighting for and can we succeed. Certain things are easier and more rational than others. Demanding justice for Mike Brown and any one alike makes sense and requires  an IMMEDIATE response. Racism, though....

If we are as well fighting a war on racism to me seems like a less concrete thing to settle. When slavery "ended" in 1865 it was easier to say "Hey, you are NOT allowed to do this...can't have slaves." Vs. Trying to make them understand WHY it was wrong TO have slaves, because clearly even after being freed from the shackles {physically,}  getting our voting rights, desegregation, and a black president does NOT mean that this country is POST-racial. Don't think because the "WHITES ONLY" signs isn't seen by the naked eye, that the "WHITES ONLY" mentality still isn't there. Don't think because the lynches are over and we are allowed to sit in front bus that the "you can't sit here" mindset still isn't there. They just found new ways to degrade us.

It's easier to say DON'T do that than to teach WHY it's wrong TO do that.

Demanding to be respected LAWFULLY is not the same as being respected heartedly.  Lawfully is a battle we can actually win, but pushing to change an individual's mindset/mentality/personal feelings on racial issues seems like a childlike naivety such as expecting WORLD peace, HA...yeah, right. The country...this world is far from an utopia where we all will get along despite religion, sexuality, race and financial standing. 

For as long as there are differences in the roots of my hair from theirs, difference in my skin, this injustice will continue to be so. Am I being realist or a pessimist?

The one thing I cannot STAND about racial activists [I'm speaking mostly to the BLACK ones] is they try to make this wholesome argument...like "we are the world" and that we are ALL the same despite racial background, so we should respect one another. 

WRONG. 

We are NOT the same and I'm glad it's that way, because I am proud to be black. Trying to make people "see" that we are all the "same" in order for a mutual respect to formulate is apart of THE problem. People tend to NOT respect someone unless they walk, talk, and LOOK like them. What we SHOULD be teaching is that it's okay to BE different and that the differences between you and someone else should NOT depend on if you're going to respect them or not. 

Sure in-between laps you could get a few tune ups, but is this a race with no finish line?