The Dilemma of a Virgin

Why is it that getting sex is much easier than getting into an actual meaningful relationship Not based on sex. Now I am not the outgoing type that can just start up a convo with someone I do not know. My family would say, "Man you are in no way," but that's because they are family, I know them, I'm comfortable with them. As for as people I don't know, I am shy...that's a Big problem for someone like me. I don't know all of the  DL signs, I definitely need a course on it. I wouldn't know if a guy was trying to "get at me" in the ways of the DL, I either wouldn't be able to tell or would think it was wishful  thinking on my part. So HOW am I ever suppose to have any male on male action in ANY form, how am I suppose to get to that point. Being in college I know there ARE guys that "get down" but WHO? I want LOVE, but being a virgin I'm fiending for sex as well. Like I said at the beginning, sex for some reason is less complicated  than love. The dilemma I have is that I am wondering what should do IF I was giving the opportunity to have SEX before LOVE. Because my dream is to give my virginity  to the man I love and know he loves me. What IF I have the chance to  have a man between my legs and be fulfilled in my lower part instead of my heart. There is NO telling WHEN I will have love, so it is no telling how long I'll be waiting if I'm waiting for love. The LAST thing I wanna do is lose my V card to some dude who just wanna hit it, but he could give me the chance to experience something I been wanting to experience, although it may not be love, but something I've wanting just as much as love. Love and Sex, I want BOTH, I'd rather have sex from the one I love, but what If I would have no choice to have sex before love is an possible option.


  1. You can get both, but to be honest with you the odds are high!

  2. Yea, the odds is exactly the problem*sighs*


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